Make me wonder #21 – Why do we fall in love with that someone someone?

11 days since my last blog post.

Tsk tsk…. Yes.. I deserve spanking for being lazy. No excuse this time. I slacked off, succumbed to pure laziness, no motivation.

Oh well… let’s hope this post is going to make up for that. Here goes nothing.

Guinea Pig read an interesting article in my Elle Magazine a few days back (yes, he reads my mags….) and told me to check our this article that explains our personalities, why are we attracted to each other and how we could be amazing if we make this work.

Here’s the full article.

In summary, Helen Fisher – an author of a book called “Why Him? Why Her?” discovered that there are some relations between our chemistry and how we would choose our mate(s). She came up with four general types of daters according to their body chemistry – hormones:

Explorer: (more dopamine expression) – extraverted intuition, irrationality, risk-taking, curious, creative, impulsive, optimistic and energetic

Builder: (more serotonin expression) — rationality, introversion, sensing, cautious but not fearful, calm, traditional, community-oriented, persistent and loyal

Director: (more testosterone expression) — logic, sensing, very analytical, decisive, tough-minded; they like to debate and can be aggressive

Negotiator: (more estrogen expression) — ethics, intuition broadminded imaginative, compassionate, intuitive, verbal, nurturing, altruistic, emotional and idealistic

(To find out which you fit, take the test here – – I am a Negotiator/Builder

She explains that we are attracted to certain type of people because they complement our characters, somewhat balances each othr up. My real life example – Guinea Pig is a Director and scientifically he would fall for the Negotiator (which thank god I am). Not sure if we will have our happy ending yet, but if Fisher’s theory is any good, we should be heading there. (we’ll see… setting this post as an email to my 40 year old self)

There are also the group of people which would fall for their similar group mates – ie: the explorers. Well this simply just make so much sense, 2 people of this group would just need to like the same things to understand the passion for a certain activity, such as the love of outdoor sports… etc.

But Fisher also says that while our natural propensities are genetically determined, much of our brain chemistry is dependent on situational factors, and our type may change or become more or less evident.

For example: If you find a natural Director working away at a dull job – make him the coach of a primary school football team, the experience could trigger a metamorphosis in him and a long-term change in his career direction. 

Now that we know this piece of info – the next time we fall in love and asks ourselves in wonderment….

What is it about him that makes my heart flutter and knees go weak?

Smile and enjoy the pleasure of knowing the answer.

Its chemistry baby.   🙂


About MayWong

Am said to be a nerd bimbo trapped in a mind of a 12 yr old boy by the one I love. Blubbly-icious!~!~!!~!~!!
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2 Responses to Make me wonder #21 – Why do we fall in love with that someone someone?

  1. Friedbeef says:

    Explorer director for me 🙂

  2. fayin says:

    i’m an explorer director 🙂

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