Ironies of life…

Saw an old man walking down the street last 2 nights, it was about 11pm. We were driving back home, it was right at the exit of a highway. There were no residential area close by, within 2km from where we were. As I saw the old pakcik, I wonder, where is he heading? Why is he alone late night? He was very dressed down in a old shirt, slacks and slippers. Was also carrying a little cloth bag. For a while, I had a thought of asking sayang to stop and give him a ride. Then suddenly, another thought came up, asking me what if he is dangerous, what if he is a con man, then start crying and be pathetic and asking us for money? What if where he is going will lead us to a band of theives? There was so many negative “what if’s”. By the time I am done with my thoughts, we were turning into another junction. Am I too cynical? Is the society and the high unrest cases driving me to become such a untrusting person? We were taught from young to ‘tolong menolong dan saling bantu membantu” But as we grow old, the horror stories we read everyday on the daily papers shows us the exact opposite.

- Of how kind souls were conned

- Of how anyone with a pussy got raped regardless how young or how old

- Of how people get hurt from getting mugged,  for just a couple of bucks, a handphone or a wallet?

- Of how kind people stop and help someone who looked like they had an accident got kidnapped and extorted all their savings

- Of how little kids got kidnapped, and till now some cases cant be solved

The list is endless, read the papers regularly and you can add on to this list yourselves. My point is, does anyone still stops by the road side to pick up someone by the road side, and honestly tell me they are not afraid of their own safety in return?

Ironic aint it… life? What we learned as a kid, simply cannot be practice as an adult. And I got a bloody A for Pendidikan Moral in SPM…..

Marriage is like a key that unlocks all happiness.

Marriage is like the key that unlocks all happiness.

I truly believe in that…

Next is to make sure I dont lose the key… ever.

The wedding was.. oh la la…    But once a lifetime, is really.. sufficient.

Here are some pics from the wedding.

31st December 2008, the last day of the year. However the year sucked so bad, this day, brought it up to the 1st rang in the ‘good year’ ladder.

Morning started… nauseatic. Was 5am, I barely slept a wink, nervous, excited, anxious, everything at once. Its a weird feeling not having Kevin sleeping beside me cuddling me as he does every night, but instead, my auntie was beside me snoring away….  Then I have this weird feeling of being away from him, that just one night. Its strange, i’ve been away over nights from Kevin before, but this time it was just.. strange. And i lovedddddddddd the feeling that i cant wait to see him the next morning, cant wait for him to come ‘redeem’ his bride and from then on.. i just cant stop thinking, hence no sleep.

Well the day then begins, did my mask as instructed by my perfect make up artist, and had a hot drink as instructed by my auntie, and had some mee suah as instructed by mom… i left everything in the hands of ppl around me.

Make up time finally…

Cant remember much what I felt throughout that 2 hours of make up. All i recalled was plenty of sms and calls from friends asking for directions, one of the ji muis came up asking me answers to some questions they were gonna use to ask Kevin, and off and on friends and relatives pop in to check on me.

And in like just a blink of an eye, im all dolled and dressed up, and… looking for friends to camwhore with me!

Then there was the anxious wait for Kevin & heng tais to arrive.

Poor Kevin attempting to climb over the gate!

When they finally did, they were asked to do many funny things, eat and drank disgusting stuff… and then do some yoga poses… i wished i was downstairs watching all this…

These are the poor ‘heng tai’s that endure lotsa pain & embarassement for us! THANKS GUYS! MUACKS!

Once all the commotion was over, off we go to Kevins house….

Was really thankful for the good weather, no rain, nor was it too hot, make up still intact, lots of breeze… alls good!

The 1st half of my wedding was over… really quickly. Barely remember much of it. Thank goodness for the tons of pictures friends and trusted photographers took.

Now comes the dinner part. There was quite a rush to ensure decor, F&B, registration tables/list and all were ready, this is where I regretted not hiring a wedding planner. There was just so much to do and looked into, and no one to help!! However, thankfully my event planning nature kicked in and Kevin was on top of everything while I was doing my make up, everything was running smoothly by the time the guests started to trickle in.

THe theme of the event, Black & Pink!

My 2nd outfit…

All dolled up with a wig and tiara… I feel like a princess. Its exactly what I imagined, the perfect shade of pink, fuchsia pink…

When I looked back at all these pictures, then I can recall vividly how happy and lucky I felt. To have a wonderful husband who sees to my every wish so sincerely and full heartedly. This is indeed, something money cannot buy.

From my endless complaining and whining to my childish tantrums and ridiculous demands, he strived on to ensure I get my dream wedding. It was all just perfect. Parents too was truly joyous as everyone showered us with so much compliment and best wishes.

And then…. we had the best countdown of our lifes! Partying with friends, starting 2009 with a big bang.

 

Those last few months, revolved aruond nothing but wedding wedding wedding. Was truly the most stressful period of my life, but it was all so worth it! Again, cant thank sayang enough for being such a sweetie to plan us a short break right after the Penang wedding, to Langkawi.

Had a superb time there, just chilling out with my favourite person in the world!

And as Langkawi is all famous for, BOOZE HEAVEN!!! We were drinking every single day we were there (3 nights) and well… almost every hour or so. Beer instead of water! Thanks to that, Ive gained 2kg itself just over that weekend, and a stubborn beer belly!

Even chilling out by the beach, brought along my trusty companion Malibu iced, and Meryl’s mint cream! YUM!!!

It was truly a refreshing retreat.

We spent a lot of time under the sun, by the beach… and…. i cut my hair short..

Whole new year, whole new me, whole new chapter of life!

We had a superbly romantic dinner in porto malai on the last night there. Very memorable experience. The food was good, the service was good, dining by the jetty, watching yatchs, listening to the sea breeze and smelling the ocean, made this evening such a special one.

I love being married…

Will take good care of my key…

Life goes on…. only better! :)

Its finally OVER!

The wedding i mean.. not the marriage..

It was absolutely so perfect. The crowd, the music, the decor, the gowns, the make up, the hair, ….. everything was just how i imagined it to be… no better! ( I imagined many horror boo boo’s).

Now that everything is behind me, i felt this serene sense of peace, and belonging. A big portion of my life was successfully completed. Went through my baby days, childhood days, eventful teenage days, tons of courtship days, many flings, few relationships, and most of all, succeeded in conning a loving and responsible guy to marry  me. Heheheheheheh…

Looking back on 2008, everyone has those list of good stuff, bad stuf, etc etc. I tried to have that, but somehow I go blank… do not know what to write, as what i wanted to write, was in most ppl’s blogs! Seriously.. are we all facing the same realization?

1) Many mentioned to be close to family especially parents! Wow, are there so many ppl around my age that has this gap they would like to close? Or is it just them writing for the sake of showing off that they are working on their relationship with their folk? On my own plate, I have a sucky relationship with my parents. Period. Them being divorced, i see each of them less than 10 – 15 times a year i guess.. about once a month or so. So im serious when i declare i need to work harder here…

2) Many of them too mentioned they have been betrayed by friends, learned about some back stabbing incidents, etc etc. Again, im dazed… are they living my life? Or again, is everyone around my age being betrayed, or going around doing it without realizing? Its impossible that all of us are just betrayed… then who are those doing it? Strange eh… but here, again on my own plate, i can genuinely say that i do experienced major dissapointments from friends, well so called friends who back stabbed, plotted together to put me down, spread lies, made used of me and ditch me at crucial moments, yada yada yada. Short of murdering me, they caused pain and sleepless nights. But now… what can I do? Yes, its best to forgive and forget… thats why my life’s way better..

3) Then, the one thing im glad everyones blog has is to recap how much joy and fun they had in 2008! that truly puts a smile on my face, knowing that everyone realizes its not all bad. I myself had a blast in 2008. Too many to mentioned, but most obvious would be us buying a new house, moving into the new house, starting our lives together, getting married, best countdown ever in my life and most importantly, many more years of happiness to look forward to, all expected to be way better than 2008

On with 2009…..

Now… whats next? Life goes on? Yes… it does… it has to.. But.. only better… way better!

Being married actually has no significant impact to my life.. or who I am. Can say that for Kevin as well. But one very big change is the commitment we have to each other… to make this work. I cant freak out, run and hide (or jump ships) anymore…. thats a fact I have to accept. Well, can vouch for how well I would perform in this 2nd stage of my life, but I can promise that I would try hard to make things work.

FOr those married gals out there, am sure you know exactly what im trying to say. hehehehe..

Would like to share some long pending pictures, curtesy of John Ishii and Jen Siow.

I call this Pre Wedding with a Twist!